Jetracer013 Posted December 5, 2012 Share Posted December 5, 2012 I recently became single and I am now dating. I have made it my mission to not disclose that I shoot 5 times per week until I get a feel for the girl. It is hard to bring up guns without them asking why. Any tips on how to broach this subject? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Solvability Posted December 5, 2012 Share Posted December 5, 2012 Why would it be an issue? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
P.E. Kelley Posted December 5, 2012 Share Posted December 5, 2012 I offered it up as part of my overall introduction....it is part of who I am! If i was a drunk perhaps I'd hide that, but if you played softball 5 times a week would you feel compelled to hide it? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chris iliff Posted December 5, 2012 Share Posted December 5, 2012 I'd go the other way. Immediately tell. I remember telling my girlfriend (now wife). Something like.....This is who I am, I shoot competitively, blah, blah, blah. I was just up front and honest. The other way, could be setting yourself up for future disappointment. Plus, now you are duping her. That's no way to start a relationship. IMHO. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Youngeyes Posted December 5, 2012 Share Posted December 5, 2012 One wonders if all that shooting was a reason that you recently became single. Bring her to the range and show her what an important part of your life shooting is. Hiding this part of your life will only come back and kick your ass later.Just sayin'. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GrumpyOne Posted December 5, 2012 Share Posted December 5, 2012 Tell her that you shoot as you and her are pulling into the range. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
56hawk Posted December 5, 2012 Share Posted December 5, 2012 A good percentage of my first or second dates have been taking a girl shooting. Bring it up early and most are interested in giving it a try. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Reshoot Posted December 5, 2012 Share Posted December 5, 2012 I recently became single and I am now dating. I have made it my mission to not disclose that I shoot 5 times per week until I get a feel for the girl. It is hard to bring up guns without them asking why. Any tips on how to broach this subject? Irecommend you give up one, or the other Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lifeislarge Posted December 5, 2012 Share Posted December 5, 2012 Read the thread "Girlfriend" in What I Hate. I'm blessed that mine loves guns but that's rare. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
redial Posted December 5, 2012 Share Posted December 5, 2012 ANYthing that competes with her for your attention will probably be seen by her as something to be eliminated. Attention is the fuel that runs the Female Universe. Introduce her to shooting, then decide whether they are compatible or if one has to go. Mark Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
swatcop Posted December 5, 2012 Share Posted December 5, 2012 Tell her from the start and try to get her interested. If its a problem from the get go, keep looking because it will be a bigger problem down the line. Then you would have to choose. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MarkCO Posted December 5, 2012 Share Posted December 5, 2012 Yes! From the start! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Aglifter Posted December 5, 2012 Share Posted December 5, 2012 Guns are pretty common in PA - I wouldn't worry about it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AlamoShooter Posted December 5, 2012 Share Posted December 5, 2012 It seams like just a year or two ago. But I have been married since 1987 to a woman that used to have more first place trophies than I did. Any way I dated competitively for several years,,, before I meet her. before I meet my wife I asked my self this question years ago. Why waste any time on girl/ woman that you cant be open with? your ether spending time or your wasting time. That can be included to your shooting . Do you spend your time or do you waist your time ? you cant buy one second of your time back at any price = spend it wisely. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ssanders224 Posted December 5, 2012 Share Posted December 5, 2012 I met my girlfriend at the pistol range when we were both practicing for an upcoming match... So It wasnt a problem HA. BUT, I'm 26, and usually its not the guns that girls have a problem with.... its just that I'd spend that much time doing ANYTHING that does not include her. And lets be honest, most girls (even the ones that dont mind guns) dont want to spend hours and hours at a hot shooting range while we shoot and cut up with our friends. It takes a special woman. Thankfully I found one of those! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lcs Posted December 5, 2012 Share Posted December 5, 2012 Take her out shooting--if she won't go-find another girlfriend! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sarge Posted December 5, 2012 Share Posted December 5, 2012 Just ask a guy I work with how things go when you don't tell them up front. After hanging out with me for awhile he got bit by the gun bug. He bought a new G17 and did not tell his girlfriend. She found a text on his phone about the gun and last time I heard they were still not speaking. Don't know which was worse. The fact he bought a gun or that he lied to her about it. Either way, I'm of the opinion that it needs to come out right now. Guns are one of those things that not everybody is comfortable with. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Steve RA Posted December 5, 2012 Share Posted December 5, 2012 Put it on the table up front ( along with anything else that takes up a lot of your time), that way it will be evident early on whether it is a problem or not. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mpolans Posted December 5, 2012 Share Posted December 5, 2012 Up front. If she has a problem with it, you know before you get to invested with her. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BillD Posted December 5, 2012 Share Posted December 5, 2012 After you get lucky. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jetracer013 Posted December 5, 2012 Author Share Posted December 5, 2012 After you get lucky. All good advice, but that has to be the best! Thanks guys. I don't think it's weird but, most of my non-shooting friends have no idea why I spend hours dry-firing, reloading, cleaning, modifying, practicing. I have brought it up right away in the past but, it does not always get a warm reception. It is hard to change someones mind about something when you have just met them. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DWFAN Posted December 5, 2012 Share Posted December 5, 2012 Find one who's mind you don't have to change. That usually doesnt work out well. Sometime maybe, not very often. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Eric_Vmax Posted December 5, 2012 Share Posted December 5, 2012 Just remember, BUY ALL YOUR TOYS BEFORE YOU GET MARRIED. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jetracer013 Posted December 5, 2012 Author Share Posted December 5, 2012 Just remember, BUY ALL YOUR TOYS BEFORE YOU GET MARRIED. Unfortunately, there is no romance without finance. I cannot afford new toys right now. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BSeevers Posted December 5, 2012 Share Posted December 5, 2012 After you get lucky. So first date then? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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