RePete Posted November 24, 2007 Share Posted November 24, 2007 My wife of almost 20 years passed away suddenly yesterday afternoon. I miss her deeply. You have my deepest, heartfelt sympathies Doug. I know what you are going through, Lynn died 16 months ago and I love her more today and miss her immensely. I hope you have family and friends close by to help you through this. You WILL survive! But, it will take time and take ALL the time you need. I only have one bit of advice that was passed on to me and that's "Don't make any major decisions for 6 months to a year." Take care, and don't be afraid or proud to ask for help. Help comes from the unlikeliest places. Peter. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bret Heidkamp Posted November 24, 2007 Share Posted November 24, 2007 I am very sorry for your loss. Words may not help the pain you are feeling right now, but you are in the thoughts of everyone here. I hope that supplies some comfort to you at this sad time. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kingman Posted November 24, 2007 Share Posted November 24, 2007 doug my sympathies to you and your family Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
iggyort Posted November 24, 2007 Share Posted November 24, 2007 (edited) My deepest sympathies and prayers go out to you and your family Iggyort Edited November 24, 2007 by iggyort Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JTew Posted November 24, 2007 Share Posted November 24, 2007 My sympathies to you and your family. God Bless+++ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
schmitz Posted November 24, 2007 Share Posted November 24, 2007 It's the cycle of Life. Please accept my condolences Doug, stay firm and have belief, best regards! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nik Habicht Posted November 24, 2007 Share Posted November 24, 2007 Doug, Carol and I extend our sympathies. Having just celebrated my 20th anniversary this year, I can't imagine the scope of such a loss. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
VeryBadshot Posted November 24, 2007 Share Posted November 24, 2007 Doug, My deepest sympathies and prayers to out to you and your family. Charlie Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Alan Meek Posted November 25, 2007 Share Posted November 25, 2007 Doug, My thoughts and condolences on the loss of your your wife. Alan Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jon Merricks Posted November 25, 2007 Share Posted November 25, 2007 Oh Doug, I am so sorry for your loss. Prayers for you and your family. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
leam Posted November 25, 2007 Share Posted November 25, 2007 We'll keep you in our prayers. Leam Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Paul Santiago Posted November 25, 2007 Share Posted November 25, 2007 My sincere condolences to you and your famly. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ap3 Posted November 25, 2007 Share Posted November 25, 2007 Doug, My prayers are with you. Albert Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
stiracer Posted November 25, 2007 Share Posted November 25, 2007 Doug, I am sorry for your loss and pray that you find strength to cope with such a devistating moment in your life, I said moment because in the general scheme of life this will be a moment in time, you will search for answers and spend many lonely days lost in confusion but one day it will be clear, It is just life and if the god you pray to didn't think you were strong enough to handle it he wouldn't have let it happen. So push on my friend and know that this board has given me an outlet for some much needed compassion myself, And i will be there for you if you need to talk or get a cup of coffee or whatever. Your Friend, Marc Brock Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Throwin Lead Posted November 25, 2007 Share Posted November 25, 2007 Doug, My thoughts and condolences on the loss of your your wife. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Caspian_45 Posted November 26, 2007 Share Posted November 26, 2007 Our prayers are with you and your family. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Slowhand Posted November 26, 2007 Share Posted November 26, 2007 Doug, I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers. God bless you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tightloop Posted November 26, 2007 Share Posted November 26, 2007 You are in my prayers... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
steve223 Posted November 27, 2007 Share Posted November 27, 2007 Doug im so sorry for your loss. You are in my prayers Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DougBarnes101 Posted November 30, 2007 Author Share Posted November 30, 2007 Thanks again to everyone for their kind words. It helps to know that people care about what I am going thru even though we have never met. This place has the best people in the world. Thanks again. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nhglyn Posted November 30, 2007 Share Posted November 30, 2007 Deepest sympathies on your loss. I have lost loved ones also, try to remember all the good times that you had together. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
-JQ- Posted November 30, 2007 Share Posted November 30, 2007 (edited) I'm very sorry to hear this. I lost my wife 2 years ago to overian cancer at age 40. The one thing everyone says (and I hated hearing) was that time helps. Well...sort of. Your pain will change and maybe lessen somewhat but it will always be with you. It was good for me to go to a few greif sessions to hear others. I know this sounds awful...it isn't pleasant but I found others benefited from my story as much as I benefited from them. another thing to keep in mind is to take care of yourself...eat and sleep when you can...you have a long row to hoe, but you have to keep going. Pulling a trigger at the range has helped a lot...I wouldn't worry about the groups for a while just release the stress. Eventually people will say stupid things to you like "aren't you over that yet" and "you need to get going with your life" Just realize that most of these people just really don't know what to say and are probably just trying to help (or make themselves feel better)...it can pi$$ you off though...still does for me sometimes...and yes I would like to get over it, too. You have to do things in your own time and try to keep going. That doesn't mean you won't have days where you can't physically move from the pain...yes it can be physical...I felt like I was kicked in the nuts everyday for months...but everyone is different..no right...no wrong. If you want/need more feel free to email me...it may be in profile...or at JTQ@one.net Good luck and God's Speed. hk_mtbr Edited November 30, 2007 by hk_mtbr Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chp5 Posted November 30, 2007 Share Posted November 30, 2007 My deepest sympathies and prayers go out to you and your family. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
EatMeerkats Posted November 30, 2007 Share Posted November 30, 2007 Doug, although I don't believe we've ever really talked, I've shot with you at South Central and WVPPS... I'm so sorry to hear this news and my thoughts are with you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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