Canuck223 Posted December 16, 2009 Share Posted December 16, 2009 Regretably, my cousin just informed me that after 15+ years of marriage, she and her husband are calling it quits. I wasn't aware that they had seperated for a few months several years back, but reconciled. She says that despite her best efforts, the marriage isn't viable. As it happens, I have a friend who would be a good match for her personality. If nothing else, he'd be a good set of training wheels for her if she get's back into dating. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JeffWard Posted December 16, 2009 Share Posted December 16, 2009 Let her know you know a great guy. She'll tell YOU when she's ready. Don't push it. Jeff Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Classic_jon Posted December 16, 2009 Share Posted December 16, 2009 I agree with JeffWard. Just tell her that when she is ready that you may know some good guys for her to go out with. Depending on the situation with her, it could be 6 months, it could be a year... it could be 6 weeks... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jaxshooter Posted December 16, 2009 Share Posted December 16, 2009 6 minutes was always enough for me. Women may need more time. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jadeslade Posted December 16, 2009 Share Posted December 16, 2009 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
G-ManBart Posted December 16, 2009 Share Posted December 16, 2009 Let her know you know a great guy.She'll tell YOU when she's ready. Don't push it. Jeff That's a good way to go about it. R, Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pat Miles Posted December 17, 2009 Share Posted December 17, 2009 Let me see if I read your post correctly. Your cousin just informed you that she and her husband are calling it quits and you want to introduce her to a friend of yours? I would suggest that you let them get the divorce over with first. If it was me I would keep my mouth shut. Things like this can come back to bite you in the butt in about 100 different ways. Just my $0.02, Pat Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ChuckS Posted December 17, 2009 Share Posted December 17, 2009 Let me see if I read your post correctly. Your cousin just informed you that she and her husband are calling it quits and you want to introduce her to a friend of yours? I would suggest that you let them get the divorce over with first. If it was me I would keep my mouth shut. Things like this can come back to bite you in the butt in about 100 different ways.Just my $0.02, Pat Yup, back off. You mean well but after 15+ years she just may want to take a breather. Let her ask you! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AlamoShooter Posted December 17, 2009 Share Posted December 17, 2009 ya know If he was from the ......South I would say he wanted to ask her himself The old trick is to have a dinner party with more than 6 people Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BMartens Posted December 17, 2009 Share Posted December 17, 2009 Make sure it is a friend you can live without. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pat Miles Posted December 17, 2009 Share Posted December 17, 2009 ya know If he was from the ......South I would say he wanted to ask her himself Okay, there's 1 of the 100 I was talking about. CYa, Pat Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ima45dv8 Posted December 17, 2009 Share Posted December 17, 2009 Forget your cousin for a minute. You'd set a friend up to be the rebound-dude? That first guy ain't going anywhere good. Damn.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Canuck223 Posted December 17, 2009 Author Share Posted December 17, 2009 Forget your cousin for a minute. You'd set a friend up to be the rebound-dude? That first guy ain't going anywhere good. Damn.... I don't want to get into too many personal details, but for multiple reasons it's a no-lose situation. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
smokshwn Posted December 17, 2009 Share Posted December 17, 2009 Forget your cousin for a minute. You'd set a friend up to be the rebound-dude? That first guy ain't going anywhere good. Damn.... I don't want to get into too many personal details, but for multiple reasons it's a no-lose situation. If there is so much more to know then without that info noone can possibly give you the answer you already want. As was said above, regardless of personality compatibility the timing and possiblity of anything other than a short term rebound relationship is a long shot at best. Be prepared to have either a cousin or friend pissed at you and most likely both, unless you know for a fact that neither of them are after anything more than recreational activity. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Duane Thomas Posted December 17, 2009 Share Posted December 17, 2009 If you're already classing this as a "no-lose situation", sounds to me like you've already made up your mind what you're doing to do, no matter what any of us say. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SA Friday Posted December 17, 2009 Share Posted December 17, 2009 Dude, you're asking for relationship advise on a shooting site . Nothing good can come from this. Drop it all and walk. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Duane Thomas Posted December 17, 2009 Share Posted December 17, 2009 This is truth. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kgunz11 Posted December 17, 2009 Share Posted December 17, 2009 How long do you wait? Until she's divorced at the very least. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
High Lord Gomer Posted December 17, 2009 Share Posted December 17, 2009 Hey! You wouldn't be upset if you lost me as a friend. How about ME? Wait...you're in Canada. Y'all breed 'em for warmth not speed up in them parts, right? Maybe not.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
3quartertime Posted December 17, 2009 Share Posted December 17, 2009 Wait...you're in Canada. Y'all breed 'em for warmth not speed up in them parts, right? Maybe not.... I should say something like, 'this is a family oriented forum and that's not acceptable!' or something, but it's too funny. I may have to borrow that one... Divorced chicks are almost my entire dating pool so I'll offer this, If you do try and be match maker just set it up as you think they would have some fun hanging out. Chicks understand the whole, 'hanging out and having fun' stuff way more than we do. As long as your buddy is good with that I'd say proceed... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JimmyZip Posted December 17, 2009 Share Posted December 17, 2009 ya know If he was from the ......South I would say he wanted to ask her himself The old trick is to have a dinner party with more than 6 people This works to get them in the same room with little hassle or pressure. that way you can say, "Hey, I just introduced you two. It's not like I really set you two up!" when either one gets pissed. Make sure it is a friend you can live without. Yeah, unless she's hot and looking to have some fun. Then your friend will probably thank you. I hooked a friend up witha girl like that, and while she was minor drama for about a month, they remember it fondly to this day. Though, they talk to me and not eachother. Wait...you're in Canada. Y'all breed 'em for warmth not speed up in them parts, right? Maybe not.... I should say something like, 'this is a family oriented forum and that's not acceptable!' or something, but it's too funny. I may have to borrow that one... Divorced chicks are almost my entire dating pool so I'll offer this, If you do try and be match maker just set it up as you think they would have some fun hanging out. Chicks understand the whole, 'hanging out and having fun' stuff way more than we do. As long as your buddy is good with that I'd say proceed... I dated a girl from Lethbridge, Alberta once. She broke my heart. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pjb45 Posted December 17, 2009 Share Posted December 17, 2009 I was separated but not divorced when friends started running women by me. For me it was great. Two out of the three women ended up in great relationships/friendships. BUT Here is what I have learned: Men are dumb, I am a man, therefore I am dumb. Anytime you asked about man about how to determine what a woman wants, needs, etc. , you need to go back to my rule. Do not try and second guess what is the best thing to do, you will always be wrong. Over the last 20 years I have worked mostly with women. Whenever I probe/ask/inquire them about anything, I am always amazed at how they go about answering. You can 1) give the guy her number or 2) tell her about him, then walk away. Do not get in the middle, do not play match maker, just give them the option and walk away. They will appreciate the effort but will not hold you libel for the consequences. The latter being most important. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bigpops Posted December 17, 2009 Share Posted December 17, 2009 Dear Abby, I have this cousin and.............................. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
spanky Posted December 17, 2009 Share Posted December 17, 2009 Pics of the cousin? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Duane Thomas Posted December 17, 2009 Share Posted December 17, 2009 They will appreciate the effort but will not hold you libel for the consequences. One of the first things I learned on the Internet is that it's rude to make fun of another person's misspellings. So please take my word for it, that's not what I'm doing here. However that just seemed SO appropriate I couldn't let it pass unremarked. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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