PaulW Posted November 24, 2005 Share Posted November 24, 2005 As I type this my Mom is lying at home dying of cancer. How cruel this world is at times. Her strength has been inspiring, she has never once complained. Back in March she came down with what she thought was the Flu. We almost lost her to congestive heart failure due to a viral infection. Got that cleared up but when the test came back from the fluid they removed around her heart it revealed cancer cells. She started chemo and was doing well. Then she had a stroke. A very mild one but yet a stroke. She made a very quick 95% recovery from the stroke and re-started chemo. Then she came down with phenmonia (spelling?) abd a urinary track infection. Got that cleared up and then her gall bladder became blocked and they had to remove her gall bladder. All during this time she was unable to continue her chemo. Then the latest news, about 10 days ago, was that the cancer had spread to her brain. They decided to try radiation but she was unable to continue due to her down hill condition. So this is going on 9 months of hell for my Mom, and all she cares about is that her children are OK. How selfless in a selfish world. I guess what I hate most is the Doctors who won't give you a straight answer, those stories will be for another "I Hate". I will be off for awhile as I sit by my Mom's side. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
smokshwn Posted November 24, 2005 Share Posted November 24, 2005 PW, I can only offer my sincerest sympathies. I have been down this road a couple of times personally and countless times professionally. This may sound a bit off key but relish in the incredible strength that is possessed by your mom. It never ceases to amaze me how at the very precipice of one of the most evil of diseases the human spirit rises to in every way to meet that challenge. Best wishes and prayers, Craig Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
spook Posted November 24, 2005 Share Posted November 24, 2005 Paul, I am very very sorry to read this. I know there are no words that will truly ease the pain. My thoughts are with your mom and your family. Sounds like she’s a wonderful, strong woman. Hang in there… Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
davidball Posted November 24, 2005 Share Posted November 24, 2005 Paul, Reading your post reminded me of what we went through with my Dad. I pray for God's comfort for your Mom, you, and your family. David Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hopalong Posted November 24, 2005 Share Posted November 24, 2005 God be with you, and your family. Sam Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kimel Posted November 24, 2005 Share Posted November 24, 2005 Paul, your family will be in my prayers. God bless, Kevin Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dajarrel Posted November 24, 2005 Share Posted November 24, 2005 I'm sorry to hear about your Mom. dj Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DougCarden Posted November 24, 2005 Share Posted November 24, 2005 As I sit here relishing the day with my folks and family, I too see the spectre of the future on the horizon. My prayers are with you Paul. If we havent been there yet, we someday will........... DougC Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
schmitz Posted November 24, 2005 Share Posted November 24, 2005 Paul, my deepest symphaties for you and your family. Stay strong. Our prayers are with you! Henny. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Merlin Orr Posted November 24, 2005 Share Posted November 24, 2005 My prayers and symphaties for you and your family. There are no other words....... Regards, Merlin Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Brian Payne Posted November 24, 2005 Share Posted November 24, 2005 I sit hear trying to think of words of comfort. "I'm sorry" is all I can think of. Tell your mother that you love her. Prayers are with you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bigbadaboom Posted November 24, 2005 Share Posted November 24, 2005 Paul, There is absolutely nothing that anyone can say that will ease your anguish. I know this from experience. All I can tell you is that you and yours are in our prayers and that being with your Mother during these times as much as possible is very important now and in your future; Every second is precious. Love and honor her the best you can. And , yes, dealing with the Doctors sucks. They are impartial and unemotional during one of the most emtional times in your life. It's not their fault, they have to stay professional because they could not perform at their best if they get too emtionally attached. Take comfort in the times you have and have had with your Mother and know that we all care for you and her. God bless and comfort her. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
eerw Posted November 25, 2005 Share Posted November 25, 2005 PaulW.. my families prayers are with your a mother and your family.. I definitely know where your head is at...god bless your mom and you.. best Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
.40AET Posted November 25, 2005 Share Posted November 25, 2005 You and your mom will be in our thoughts and prayers. Keep the faith. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ferrell Spicer Posted November 25, 2005 Share Posted November 25, 2005 May God be with your mother, you and your family. You will be in our prayers. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chuck D Posted November 25, 2005 Share Posted November 25, 2005 The only part of getting older that really bothers me... you begin to lose your loved ones. God Bless you and your Mother. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ima45dv8 Posted November 25, 2005 Share Posted November 25, 2005 Paul -- I'm sorry for your pain. I wish I knew how to ease your anguish but that's well beyond me. If I could, I would. What I'd like to offer you is the same gift you gave me when I read this. Today I got to spend the day with my Mom for the first time in a long while. She's become extremely frail and I know she isn't long for this world, but I had that brief time with her that I will cherish forever. Despite her physical deficiencies she is so strong that I feel like a child again in her presence. Ever the teacher..... Thanks to you, I will not overlook the gift of those few moments. Find peace. ...Mark Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DougBarnes101 Posted November 25, 2005 Share Posted November 25, 2005 Paul, I am truly sorry for what you are going through. You, your mother and your family will be in my prayers. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GuildSF4 Posted November 25, 2005 Share Posted November 25, 2005 Will keep you and your mother in my prayers. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PaulW Posted November 28, 2005 Author Share Posted November 28, 2005 Thank you all. Mom is resting without pain. The waiting and watching is the tough part, bt not nearly as tough as what she is going through. Again thank you all for your kind words and prayers. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
carinab Posted November 28, 2005 Share Posted November 28, 2005 I'm so sorry to hear of your situation. Cancer has impacted many of us on this forum. And it's awful every time another member declares it's grabbed another victim. As terrible as cancer is, it made me realize what a gift each day we have with our loved ones is. You and your mother are in my prayers. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
XRe Posted November 28, 2005 Share Posted November 28, 2005 Paul, I can't really say anything the other folks already haven't. You and your family are in my prayers, and you have my deepest sympathies. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kevin Kline Posted November 28, 2005 Share Posted November 28, 2005 Paul, I am so sorry to hear this and you and your family have my sincerest sympathies. May God be with your mother and family and you're in my prayers. As a good friend, if there is ANYTHING I can do, PLEASE do not hesitate to ask. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
quimico2 Posted November 28, 2005 Share Posted November 28, 2005 Paul, i dont know you, but believe me, you and your mother are in my prayers. Be Strong !! Químico2, from Brazil. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tightloop Posted November 28, 2005 Share Posted November 28, 2005 Paul I understand how you feel.....there is really nothing anyone can say or do to help much at this time..you must be strong and resilent....Know all your friends and loved ones are there for you...use them, call them, cry to them, let them help you...whatever it takes.. You and your family are in my prayers... David Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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