alpha-charlie Posted May 26, 2011 Share Posted May 26, 2011 I hate arguing with my dad. If it's a decision that he doesn't have the same opinion on then it's the wrong way. Both ways are correct but if it's not his way then I'm the jerk and he's the one getting screwed. Now we're doing the stubborn silent treatment. It's so hard to try and talk to someone who only has two emotions: silence and rage. Anyone else got one out there like this??? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ronnie j Posted May 26, 2011 Share Posted May 26, 2011 Yep quit talking to him years ago , left him alone with his hate Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ronnie j Posted May 26, 2011 Share Posted May 26, 2011 (edited) Double tap sorry Edited May 26, 2011 by Ronnie j Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
whitedog Posted May 26, 2011 Share Posted May 26, 2011 Yup.....the stories I could tell. He's gone now,the good memories can be counted on one hand. Sorry dude,I feel for you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
smokshwn Posted May 26, 2011 Share Posted May 26, 2011 Yep quit talking to him years ago , left him alone with his hate Did the same with my mother......there isn't time nor space in my life for someone who can do nothing but inject their bitterness and anger. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
twodownzero Posted May 26, 2011 Share Posted May 26, 2011 Yep quit talking to him years ago , left him alone with his hate Did the same with my mother......there isn't time nor space in my life for someone who can do nothing but inject their bitterness and anger. +1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
alpha-charlie Posted May 27, 2011 Author Share Posted May 27, 2011 I know it'll work out in the end. He hates change and is extremely set in his ways. His intentions are to make things easier for me because he had to struggle so much, but there comes a time to just let go. Its my life and my decisions. I swear to be more open minded with my future kids. This forum really makes ya feel better to let it out. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
outerlimits Posted May 27, 2011 Share Posted May 27, 2011 Y'all.will mature at somepoint. You only have one mother and one father. My only child is 20 and i'm happy one of my parents is still around. You will learn to take those moments as what they are . Before ypu know it, you will be on your own wondering where they went. I love my parents, even if they were wrong at times... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TimBoettcher Posted May 27, 2011 Share Posted May 27, 2011 I personally would never refer to my Father as my "old man", in my eye's, it's disrespectful. With that being said, I hope you mend the wounds, you only get one set of parents and when the inevitable happens, you will be sorry. Agree to disagree and live life! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DonT Posted May 27, 2011 Share Posted May 27, 2011 (edited) Hope you guys work it out and enjoy the time you have together. Edited May 27, 2011 by DonT Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
vluc Posted May 27, 2011 Share Posted May 27, 2011 "When I was a boy of fourteen, my father was so ignorant I could hardly stand to have the old man around. But when I got to be twenty-one, I was astonished by how much he'd learned in seven years." Mark Twain Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
vluc Posted May 27, 2011 Share Posted May 27, 2011 (edited) I know it'll work out in the end. He hates change and is extremely set in his ways. His intentions are to make things easier for me because he had to struggle so much, but there comes a time to just let go. Its my life and my decisions. I swear to be more open minded with my future kids. This forum really makes ya feel better to let it out. You never let go, and if/when you have kids, the day will come when you do/say something and realize you sound just like your father. And then you hit the day when you understand why he does what he does, says what he says and is the way he is. If you are getting into arguments with him, sounds like the way you respond to his concerns, comments and behavior, the fruit has not fallen far from the tree. Edited May 27, 2011 by vluc Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CocoBolo Posted May 27, 2011 Share Posted May 27, 2011 May I suggest some light reading and heading. "How to win friends and Influence People" Dale Carnagie I'm a Grand Dad a few times over. I grew up in the time when Spare the Rod Spoil the Child, and Children are to be seen and not heard, was common conversation. I never argued with my Father, respect fear or both. But no doubt differences of opinion can occurr but how you handle them can make a great difference in the outcome. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
EEH Posted May 27, 2011 Share Posted May 27, 2011 I don't want to get into he said I said,but we all thought our dad's were mean just put here on earth to make all us mad,, my dad is gone now and boy do I wish I could go to his house,give him a hug,do what ever it takes to make friends,give him your love and respect.. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nuke8401 Posted May 27, 2011 Share Posted May 27, 2011 Assuming you are an adult, supporting yourself, living on your own; you should have nothing to argue about. Unless of course you are in business together, in which case my advice would be to strike out on your own and be your own man. Seriously, unless you ask for his opinion and are mad when he gives it to you, he should not be telling you what to do as an adult. I would take the high road, show him respect, agree to disagree; and tell him if/when he gives advice unsolicited that you want to make your own decisions as he did and ask him to respect that. If he is a negative person in general then again take the high road and let him know you want a relationship with him but it must be positive, not negative. I don’t know who is right or wrong in your case, I do know I would be much happier, rich and retired if I had listened to my dad. As a parent, one of the things you hate most is seeing your child make the same mistakes you made and not be able to change the outcome. Show him respect and take the high road. David E. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
oraysor Posted May 27, 2011 Share Posted May 27, 2011 My Father was like that, hard to figure out. Now that I am 66+ I find myself looking back and can understand many of his problems he was dealing with...Its not easy growing old, your mind thinks you can still do thing as you have always done them then your old tired body says no way are you doing what you are thinking about. I miss my DAD... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GrumpyOne Posted May 27, 2011 Share Posted May 27, 2011 Yep quit talking to him years ago , left him alone with his hate Did the same with my mother......there isn't time nor space in my life for someone who can do nothing but inject their bitterness and anger. As did I...She died earlier this year, I hadn't seen nor spoken to her in 20 years..Till her last breath, she was still angry and bitter... As to arguing with your Dad, if it's not life threatening, just let him win...It's not worth the pain and anguish, and as long as you know you are right, then you win, and he just doesn't know it... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BillChunn Posted May 27, 2011 Share Posted May 27, 2011 Raising children is a life long event. "Letting go" is difficult especially when your child looks like they are making a series of bad decisions... but the lessons learned from the School of Hard Knocks last forever. Sometimes you just have to back off and let them make their own mistakes. You still love them, no matter what they do.... HH Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TruStreet Posted May 27, 2011 Share Posted May 27, 2011 Sounds like your dad could be a clone to mine! Mine went so far as to have me falsely arrested just to get back at my mom during their divorce! I was found not guilty, but it cost me my job & alot of time & money. He passed away last Thursday. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rishii Posted May 28, 2011 Share Posted May 28, 2011 No I never had the chance to argue with my dad, He passed away when I was 15, nearly 35 years ago, still miss him till this day what ever the issue is, try your best to solve it My best friend and his dad had a huge falling out, didn't speak to each other for a Few years, After his dad passed, he had a hard time because he never had the Chance to make it right with him. Basically their pride got in the way Try your best not to let it happen to you Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jhgtyre Posted May 28, 2011 Share Posted May 28, 2011 This Hate rant has turned into a discussion, which is beyond the bounds of the rules for the Hate Forum. Thus, it must be closed. Please review the Hate Forum Rules: http://www.brianenos.com/forums/index.php?showtopic=8097 [note: this is a generic response] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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