I use the "reload if necessary and holster a safe, hot weapon" command. I don't feel like that's coaching at all, since I use it with every shooter.
I also have no issues when a shooter asks me the procedure with a particular string, I'll gladly go over it with him/her.
This is a USPSA event , not a police qualifier anyway.
As far as sight pictures, I do like to take one myself, just to stay in the same routine every time. I don't like it, but with multi-strings, this sight picture is generally with a loaded gun.