spook Posted October 31, 2002 Share Posted October 31, 2002 Don't know if this fits here, 'cause it's not so much that I hate this situation, but it just hurts like hell. Getting dumped after 21/2 years by someone you still care about a lot sucks, and that is a major understatement. Does anyone have any tips on speeding up the proces of "getting over it"? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PaulW Posted October 31, 2002 Share Posted October 31, 2002 Time and thats it my friend, just time. Keep your chin up, the sun always rises the next day. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jake Di Vita Posted October 31, 2002 Share Posted October 31, 2002 What Paul said, just try and put it behind you and look towards better things. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tightloop Posted October 31, 2002 Share Posted October 31, 2002 The two posts in front of me are correct. But put your situation into perspective, I got a divorce last year after 31 years of marriage, it has been 16 months and I am not over it yet. don't really know if I will get over it. I take solice in the following lines: When you say you have problems as great as my own I'm forced to admit that it is true But consider the fact, mine happen to me While your's only happen to you. Seriously, I am doing just like you; taking it day by day. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
spook Posted October 31, 2002 Author Share Posted October 31, 2002 Wow, thanks you guys. At times like these I can see these forums are not for "just" shooting problems. Believe me, your replies already made me feel much better. Paul an TIS, yeah, I was afraid there are no real shortcuts. Time and positive thinking must heal the wounds. tightloop, man, your story really put my situation in perspective. Thanks for the lines. Bjorn Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SiG Lady Posted October 31, 2002 Share Posted October 31, 2002 I agree with the part about TIME. But, you know, one of the best ways to repair an 'empty' spot in your life is to fill it with new, meaningful activities or people. Has worked for me in many "loss" situations. Otherwise that 'vacuum' that's temporarily there will 1.) get bigger, and 2.) start eroding and eating what remains of you. Not what you want. Quick! Fill it with neat things to do and with cool people! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Patrick Sweeney Posted October 31, 2002 Share Posted October 31, 2002 You want tough? I got dumped once years ago, because she "Wanted to go back to her old girlfriend." Dating in a university town ain't for the weak. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Duane Thomas Posted October 31, 2002 Share Posted October 31, 2002 Oh God, I'm sorry but I had to laugh and smile at that one. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jake Di Vita Posted October 31, 2002 Share Posted October 31, 2002 Talk about kicking you while you're down. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BigDave Posted October 31, 2002 Share Posted October 31, 2002 Load and Make Ready, I say. (take that how you will) disclaimer: in no way am I infering violence towards any person (Edited by BigDave at 6:23 pm on Oct. 31, 2002) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PaulW Posted November 1, 2002 Share Posted November 1, 2002 Sig Lady, you are soooo right. Don't isolate yourself and let yourself feel down in the dumps. Get around good people, people you really enjoy and so things for yourself. Time it does take but Sig lady's comment was awesome. Stay strong and we are all here for ya!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
spook Posted November 1, 2002 Author Share Posted November 1, 2002 Siglady, what you said to me is what I heard from a close friend of mine, who got dumped after a 4 year relationship. He's now 25 and it has been almost 5 years later. He's still not OK with it and says the thing he should have done is exactly what you say. Don't isolate yourself and do good things (which for me is an excuse to shoot even more than I do now:)) ) I'm just 24 so I still have a whole lifetime to do all the cool things that I like. Dave, you cracked me up. Thanks, I needed that. Patrick, yeah, that sucks. She told me once that if this relationship wouldn't work, she would do the same thing. Should have listened back then. This was also a university relationship. What's up with the women over there? Thanks again everyone. It makes me feel good. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Patrick Sweeney Posted November 1, 2002 Share Posted November 1, 2002 The really painful part was that she was good looking, but her ex was a real fox. Two out of circulation! I consoled myself with a pair of 18 year olds: scotch and a new girlfriend. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
spook Posted November 1, 2002 Author Share Posted November 1, 2002 LOL. Man, to bad the girls wouldn't let you "join" the relationship Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Duane Thomas Posted November 1, 2002 Share Posted November 1, 2002 "disclaimer: in no way am I infering violence towards any person" Sorry about this, but: [PICKY WRITER MODE ON] The speaker implies; the listener infers. [PWM OFF] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bountyhunter Posted November 1, 2002 Share Posted November 1, 2002 I've always found that nailing her sister and then not calling helps improve my outlook. You can do her mom too if she goes to the gym regularly. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Duane Thomas Posted November 1, 2002 Share Posted November 1, 2002 Years ago I listened to a radio call-in show where the topic of the day was "Men who've slept with both a mother and the daughter: which was best?" The interesting thing, every single man with real world experience in this category who called in said the mother. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BigDave Posted November 2, 2002 Share Posted November 2, 2002 Thank you Duane. I was uncertain when I typed, but was too lazy to look it up in Webster's. Now I'll never forget. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BigDave Posted November 2, 2002 Share Posted November 2, 2002 Why not both at the same time??? [major thread drift] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Duane Thomas Posted November 2, 2002 Share Posted November 2, 2002 Indeed. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SiG Lady Posted November 2, 2002 Share Posted November 2, 2002 ...[major brain drift]... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
spook Posted November 2, 2002 Author Share Posted November 2, 2002 ROTFLMFAO, You guys never saw the sister. Lemme put it this way: I would scream for help. As for the mother, man, you guys don't even wanna know Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Duane Thomas Posted November 2, 2002 Share Posted November 2, 2002 True. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Shooter Grrl Posted November 3, 2002 Share Posted November 3, 2002 ROTFLMAO!!! So this is how a mans mind works.... gosh these forums are SO informative! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gm iprod Posted November 4, 2002 Share Posted November 4, 2002 Women already know hows a man's mind works. Men hope to know how a women's mind works, until they do. Then they wish they never did, but then it's too late. If women want men to notice their new hair cut, get hairy breasts. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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