Chris iliff Posted May 15, 2010 Share Posted May 15, 2010 I have started to notice this in myself and I'm working to correct what I now see as a defect. When someone achieves something, I have, sometimes, after offering my congratulation, added a caveat that actually detracts from my well meaning. Now that I notice this, I wonder if it might stem from some sort of lack of confidence on my part. I'm sure that no matter how right I may be, it makes me a smaller person. I think that the need to point out a negative in this type of situation is SMARMY. It is really just a way to say "I am superior", or "Look at me". I think most true champions do not do this, so I will correct this in myself. I actually could put this in the "what I like category", I like self reflective epiphanies! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GrumpyOne Posted May 15, 2010 Share Posted May 15, 2010 (edited) That's pretty good! But I could have said it better! Edited May 15, 2010 by GrumpyOne Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chris iliff Posted May 15, 2010 Author Share Posted May 15, 2010 Now that's funny, I am ROFL. Good description! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jane Posted May 15, 2010 Share Posted May 15, 2010 That's pretty good! But I could have said it better! A witty response considering you only took 4 minutes to post it.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sean Gaines Posted May 15, 2010 Share Posted May 15, 2010 Its a defense mechanism. To put someone down to prop yourself up. Its good that you noticed it and are actively going to try and change it. The first part of rehabilition is to aknowdledge that you have a problem. But at the same time if we don't have defense mechanisms, then we would all go insane... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kevin c Posted May 15, 2010 Share Posted May 15, 2010 That's pretty good! But I could have said it better! A witty response considering you only took 4 minutes to post it.... ZING!!! (Not TOO far off the mark, there...) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bbbean Posted May 15, 2010 Share Posted May 15, 2010 Very insightful, for a layman. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GrumpyOne Posted May 15, 2010 Share Posted May 15, 2010 Very insightful, for a layman. I would agree with you, if you were right..... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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