I use Tightgroup for 9, 40, and 45. I use Fed primers because I tend to have light trigger pulls on my revolvers and its just easier for me to use one primer brand. For 357 I've always used Alliant 2400, its did the best in my 686.
For 9 I use 3.0gr with 147 lrn, 40 is 180 JHP or Plated with 3.5 gr, and 45 is 3.7gr with 200gr LSWC.