They are right. So it makes all the posts with information on how many grains of this or that that they use, worthless. First, find out what length of what bullet fits your gun. Than you have a maximum COL, but is it the most efficient COL. Does it load most efficiently. Then start with the lowest charge you can and work your way up to the maximum charge. Then when you have all this data, minimum and maximum, go back and determine the charge that is most accurate. When you have collected all this information and not before, let us know the bullet you are using, it's length, the COL you have found that chambers best, in what gun and the power and charge for the most accurate shot.
And I thought that just asking for the seating depth was enough to help.