[Recovering Photos from iPod]

These might help -

http://discussions.apple.com/thread.jspa?messageID=4127851

http://www.iphone-mac.com/how-to-recover-deleted-files-from-ipod.html

or try software like Recover My iPod

There should be freeware or shareware out there if you do a quick search on ipod photo recovery

If she backed up after the photos were sent, then try restoring from backup. Make sure that you turn off automatic syncing first before you connect. Go to iTunes>Preferences>Devices and check the box that says Prevent iPod.

[Best way to remove music from iPod w/o iTunes]

If you have your iPod set to automatically sync with your iTunes library, then just right-click the song you wish to remove and click "delete" (and click "move to recycling bin" after). Of it goes into cyberspace. If you don't want to permanently delete iPod music, then uncheck it.

If you have your iPod set to manually manage your music, then you will need to plug your iPod into your computer. Then click "Music" under the iPod icon on iTunes (there may be an arrow hiding all the divisions of your iPod, but click it so it faces downwards). When all your songs are displayed, do the same thing I said above. It will no longer be on your iPod, but it will still be on your iTunes.

Hope I was of help