Ross Carter Posted February 3, 2014 Share Posted February 3, 2014 Hate may be a strong word, maybe disappointed with the world is a better description. On another forum a guy was proud to say he got picked for his High School trap team and was looking for a trap bag/shell holder. I happen to have a several nice ones left over from when I shot trap and went thru several to find one that I liked. I probably should have thought about the implications a little more but I just sent the guy a message and offered to give him one as I had extras I didn't need and it's great to be able to help young people get started in shooting. A few days later I got a reply from him, he was very apologetic but said he would have to decline the offer. His mother couldn't understand why some stranger on the internet would just give her son something and was suspicious of my motives. He said he tried to explain it to her but she said no and he had to honor his mothers wishes. At first I was completely dumbfounded and a little insulted but after further reflection I started to understand her point. I never even considered there would be any concerns, the shooting community is made up of some of the most generous people around. Maybe my judgement was clouded by the fact I was the recipient of an outpouring of support and help from the shooting community that was just tremendous. I only regret that I could never thank every person who helped me thru my trials. So the lesson I've learned from this is to contact the parent if possible before offering to gift something to help a teenage shooter. It's sounds logical now, I guess, but all I thought was shooter in need and I happen to have a surplus of what he needed. It's just sad people feel they need to be this cynical about a simple offer. After getting the reply I thought about offering ways to alleviate the mothers concerns (send the bag to his coach) but then that might make me look too eager and just make things worse Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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