A True Gentleman

[chp5]

“The True Gentleman is the man whose conduct proceeds from good will and an acute sense of proprietary, and whose self control is equal to all emergencies; who does not make the poor man conscious of his poverty, the obscure man of his obscurity, or any man of his inferiority or deformity; who is himself humbled if necessity compels him to humble another; who does not flatter wealth, cringe before power or boast of his own possessions or achievements; who speaks with frankness but always with sincerity and sympathy; whose deeds follows his word; who thinks of the rights and feelings of others, rather than his own; and who appears well in any company, a man with whom honor is sacred and virtue safe.“

John Walter Wayland (Virginia 1899)

[DocMcG]

This post should be added to the thread, "Help me find the words," in the Mental Conditioning forum!

Good stuff!

Thanks for sharing!

Kyle

[babymathew]

Really true gentleman is the man who can follow all this, it's hard to find such kind of a person now a days. In today's world everybody is in the race and want to defeat others to get on the top most position.Keep sharing this type of good stuff with us.

[John Heiter]

I joined a Fraternity in college and this poem was their creed. Everyone was required to memorize it and 15 years later I still have a framed copy of it hanging in my bedroom. Nice to see it popping up here too.

As I understand it, this poem also appears in the manual for cadets at the Naval Academy.

[DBChaffin]

I remember memorizing this during my pledge days in 1994. Wow, it has been a long time. Unfortunately, although I remember several sections of it, I couldn't recite it word for word today if I had to. I'm glad to see it again and read through it.

For those that may be interested in a bit of the poem's history (admittedly buried somewhat within its history with SAE), see below:

For more than half a century, SAE pledges have recited "The True Gentleman," and no other words, save perhaps those of the ritual of initiation, have more nearly represented the ideals of Sigma Alpha Epsilon. It may be that few members have ever been able to exemplify all the attributes set forth in the statement, but it does set forth the perfecting purpose of the Fraternity.

Many years ago Judge Walter B. Jones, past Eminent Supreme Archon of SAE, came upon "The True Gentleman" and printed it in an Alabama Baptist quarterly, which he edited. He sent a copy of the magazine to John Moseley, who was powerfully struck by the elegant words which accorded with his own philosophy of gentlemanliness. Moseley started using it in the Leadership Schools in the 1930s and it caught on quickly in chapters all across the land. Although John Moseley never claimed authorship, many came to believe that he had composed "The True Gentleman." Because SAEs had no idea who the author was, The Phoenix indicated that the piece was simply "anonymous."

In the 1970s Phoenix editor Joe Walt discovered that "The True Gentleman" was also printed in a manual used at the U.S. Naval Academy in Annapolis and that its author was John Walter Wayland. It turns out that many years ago The Baltimore Sun conducted a competition for the best definition of a true gentleman. John Walter Wayland's submission was the winner. Thus it was printed in the Baltimore newspaper and was repeated in many publications thereafter. No matter who the author, "The True Gentleman" reflects a major part of the substance of the ritual of Sigma Alpha Epsilon. Pledges memorize it and are asked to recite it. Awards are given to brothers who are thought best to exemplify it. Why do we regard it so highly, and what's in it for you as a member of Sigma Alpha Epsilon?

Every organization is strengthened by tangible forms of a ritual. Athletic teams have mascots; churches have written rituals. Commercial enterprises have slogans, and countless private organizations of individuals, who have chosen to belong for any variety of reasons, have statements of philosophy that define and express their beliefs. Not only does "The True Gentleman" remind each brother and pledge of his Fraternity's code of behavior, it also serves that same function for non-members. And since it is something every member and pledge of Sigma Alpha Epsilon have in common, it helps bond us, providing part of the glue that holds us together. After all, gentlemanliness is the starting point and the indispensable quality of lasting friendships.

Taken from section IV of The Phoenix, written by Past ESR G. Robert Hamrdla

[SiG Lady]

Sounds like something relating to the way of a warrior. The perfectly centered person. Calm confidence. Moral fortitude. Importantly, someone about the business of setting a GOOD EXAMPLE.