Being a good Parent is a lot like being a good commanding offocer. Everything I know about Parenting was given form by Mel Gibson's movie "We were Soldiers Once". Go rent it it and watch it. But, turn the sound off! Don't listen to what Mel Gibson as Hal Moore says, look at what he does. A Good Commander is:
!. Visable. You do not appear at morning formation yell and threaten, then dissapear to the golf course and O club for the rest of the day. You are there, in the motor pool, mess hall, rifle range, where ever your troops are, so are you. Up front.
2. Involved. You are a part of what is happening, not an observer. You know who the people are. Not just Company Commanders and 1st Sgts., but as may people as your memory can hold. That includes B company's Duty Sgt. as well as C companys vechicle dispatcher.
3. Knowledge-able . It isn't your job to do everybodies job, but to know what it is. When my 16 year old mentions '8 Mile' I know what she means. When my 19 year old mentions ' Full Metal Alchemist' I know what she's talking about.
So there it is. Joad's opinion on Parenting.
First in, last out, Sir!