Sounds like a problem with the chamber or slide to barrel lockup dimensions. Something's too tight, so there's more rearwards force needed to unlock the casing from the chamber / slide from the barrel. As a result, the slide and barrel stays locked together for longer, and some of the energy that's normally spent on pushing the slide (only) rearwards, is used to smack the slide/barrel against the locking lug hard.
As a result, the weaker ammo doesn't create enough rearwards force to reliably cycle, since less energy is leftover to eject the casing. Which is the cause of failure to ejects. A temporary fix would be to use a softer recoil spring. 13 pound might work better, maybe grab a sampler pack with different weight springs and test them out. Of course, lighter recoil springs might have their own issues, so, temporary fix.
The duty ammo does create enough rearwards energy to cycle the slide reliably. However, that's even more force being applied to that barrel lug. I'm guessing that if you only use high pressure ammo, that lug is absolutely going to break sooner rather than later. In the same way the others in this thread had their lugs break.
TL:DR Swap to a lighter spring for now, swap to non zev slide/barrel in the future. Good luck.