I'm sorry to hear you were hit with so much at the same time as your retirement. I had high hopes of spending a lot more "me" shooting time after my military retirement. Here I am l almost 9 years later wondering where all that time and energy I was supposed to have after retiring is. Realizing it is not going to get any easier, this year I am focusing on more recreational and competitive shooting. The therapeutic value and opportunity to hang out with others is too valuable to keep missing out on.
Two years ago, my parents moved out of California after a lifetime there. Second best thing they ever did.