I've been spending a lot of time with my 92xP and have fairly similar feedback to many owners who are using the pistol for matches. My Elite II seems to fit my hand much better, and that gun is not an ergonomic dream either. That being said, with enough practice, any ergo issue can be overcome, but it would be nice to have a gun fit out of the box.
I am hoping Beretta USA offers the "special parts" soon. The EU site's extended slide release combined with a thinner safety lever will help alleviate the issue of not being able to reach the slide release. I kind of wish they put VP9 cocking "wings" in the back of the slide where the safeties used to be. The shape of the Beretta 92 slide is just about as bad as the Shadow 2 for overhand gripping since it tapers significantly towards the top.
I do love the recoil management and the trigger, but part of me wonders if a SP01 or S2 was the better way to go.