Hi I am relatively new to hand loading. But I swear my WSF powder load is way too snappy. I am loading Extreme 124G plated, 4.5 WSF, 1.169OAL. This is considerably more snappy, more recoil, etc than when I fire my factory defensive hollow points out of the box What am I doing wrong? Should I drop it down to 4.0 grains or less.