Wow! This is an incredibly moving thread!
If you don't mind, Joel, I would like to e-mail this to friends and family....it is truly fantastic advice and made my eyes water up a bit.
Truly sorry for all of the losses on here, I have yet to lose anybody but I know it's coming.
I, too, will print this out for future reference.
Thanks so much to all who have posted up the lessons to be learned.
-Clay-